Welcome to WeirdLight! I’m Elmo. I’m a Neurodivergent & Neurodivergent-Affirming Licensed Psychotherapist (LPC), Somatic Experiencing® Practitioner (SEP), and Life & Relationship Coach with a background in comedy. I specialize in Relationships, Grief, Trauma, Pleasure & Play. My favorite folks to work with live on all kinds of Spectrums - Gender, Sexuality, Ace, Romantic, Relational & Autistic! If you find yourself surfing ANY of these spectrums, I am already so excited about you. Let’s get weird!
My role is to create a supportive space for you to be exactly who you are, and to remind you of your unique brilliance, no matter how flawed you feel inside. I’m a guide on your path back to your courageousness and aliveness - to your heart, your Truth, to your creativity and authenticity. I want to help you engage in life with curiosity, openness, and awareness, so you can show up as your whole self. To be an Artist of your Life.
Taking emotional risks is the cost of admission to a life worth living. What would it be like if you knew something was going to be painful or scary…but you weren’t afraid of those emotions? What would you do differently? Changing your relationship with your body and its feelings can open up your whole world.
My approach is warm, relational, radically accepting, funny, and sincere.
Want to know what it’s like to work with me?
Check out this recording of a live interview with Karen Yates about my work, and a live audience demo HERE
A little backstory…
My curiosity knows no bounds (except for the fun kind!). For years, I’ve been hungrily researching everything I can find from the schools of psychology, philosophy, neuroscience, spirituality, culture, language, stories, and personal experience to understand these Stardust Meat Suits we call people. I am constantly amazed by human beings.
With years of training and experience in counseling people, many of whom had been through living nightmares, I am uniquely skilled at liberating people from the grip of shame, healing sensitive nervous systems, and compassionately supporting people that may not feel like they fit into a box.
I’ve been queer and kinky my whole life, and in 2004, I completed Cleo DuBois’ Erotic Dominance Intensive for Women, spent years in mentorship in the San Francisco BDSM community, and have been practicing Consensual Non-Monogamy (CNM) for over 20 years. In me, you will find a strong collaborator who appreciates uniqueness of all kinds, including artistic expressions, love styles, gender expressions, creative relationship structures, and beautifully divergent neurology. I am very proudly Autistic (with a side of ADHD!), and am Neurodivergent-affirming in all of my practices.
What i believe
We can empower our hearts and voices by embracing our inner Sacred Rebel, and the parts of our selves that know we deserve better.
We can make peace with our demons by befriending our Shadows. Our attuned, serene, wise, creative, and patient selves co-exist with our ugly, selfish, and destructive selves. Anything that happens to one also happens to the other. When we are unified, it resets the health and balance of our whole, real selves.
We can heal from chronic emotional distress by settling overactive nerves though self- and body-awareness practices, and releasing memories and emotions that are still playing out old stories in our bodies and minds, causing repetitive behavioral, emotional, and relationship patterns.
Play. Is. Medicine. I’ve been a trauma specialist for years, and much of my session time with clients has been in states of laughter and celebration. The antidote to trauma is pleasure (of all kinds), and curiosity. We will focus on what feels good to you. Let’s start taking steps toward you remembering who you are!
People often see scars as old wounds, as evidence of damage. I see them as places of healing – a bodily act of self- compassion. The body repairs itself, and the shining stripes are proof that, even when we are the perpetrators of the damage, we love ourselves on a cellular level enough to mend the places where we’ve been wounded.